Life is all about change. Change will come whether you like it or not. You may be in a toxic relationship, you could be in the process of leaving a job you’ve been in for too long, you could be worrying about the future.
I found 12 essential steps that will help you in this whole movement to rebuild, redesign and change your life.
Change Your Life – Step 1: One Step At A Time
Many people are rushing towards the finish line, but there is no finish line. You are designer to live your life for the long haul.
Whatever dream you have for yourself, whatever vision you have for yourself, it starts with pacing yourself.How many of us have anxiety? Everyone does. This happens because we always try to get somewhere else instead of enjoying the present moment.
One step at a time is about immersing yourself in the present moment. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but a lot of us just want to see the finished product, without even thinking about what went into making it.
Enjoy the process.
Do what makes you happy and time disappears.
Change Your Life – Step 2: Let Go Of Mediocrity
In our society we praise normal, but what is normal? We are told that we have to live in the conveyor belt lifestyle, where we are on autopilot and where we become a cog in the machine.
Letting go of mediocrity is to realize that there is nobody like you in the world. It is about embracing your uniqueness.
Nobody is normal but everybody is unique.
To become an active participant in this experience we call life you have to become extraordinary, which is really about being unique.
You have so much to offer, not only to the world but also to yourself. But you can only do that once you start to step out of your box.
Don’t live in the footsteps of others, create your own path.
Change Your Life – Step 3: Let Go Of Past Resentments
Because this is a new beginning, the whole theme is moving from the mind into the heart. The heart is about vulnerability, transparency, honesty, commitment and freedom.
Many times we can’t get past our past, we can’t get past grudges and resentments. If you can’t forgive yourself, how can you forgive other people? It all starts with self-forgiveness.
Let go of all superficial relationships. Work on discovering real connections, not just on Facebook, but a deep connection to really get into the feelings of the other person. At that moment you can start sharing your most intimate secrets.
Change Your Life – Step 4: Connect With Amazing People
This step is where we all become a support network to each other. With a support network you don’t even have to focus on people you don’t resonate with because all of your attention will be on the people who you love and that love you back.
Change Your Life – Step 5: Visualize In The Present
Many people say, “In five years I will …”. What if instead you say “I am…” or “I am capable of…” right now.
You have all the tools you need to create the life you desire right now. Your vocabulary should be orientated towards the present. Don’t talk about what happened in the past, don’t talk about what is going to happen in the future.
You can change your life right now and it all starts with your mindset and giving yourself a chance.
Change Your Life – Step 6: Be Kind To Yourself
The more pressure you put on something, the harder it is for it to move. Be lenient when it comes to talking towards yourself.
The secret of stepping into radical action is to remove the pressure.
You decided to change your life, so be kinder to yourself by the foods you eat, by the friends you connect with, by the music you listen to, by the movies you watch, etc.
Change Your Life – Step 7: Place Value On What You Do
Not value for what you do for others, but value on what you do for yourself. Do everything you do for yourself first.
When your soul intention is to please people, you basically deviate from your true expression. What you have to offer yourself is far greater than you could ever imagine. Your presence alone is enough.
It’s never what you say or do, but it’s the energy behind that matters. When you start placing value on your amazing gifts, great things happen and you will change your life in the most positive way imaginable.
Change Your Life – Step 8: Let Go Of Society’s Expectations
Being free is your birthright. The reason why you are in a position you are not comfortable with is because you are still living by society’s rules.
Be bold enough to live the life you know you are worthy of. A lot of us make excuses for the life we are living.
Letting go of society’s expectations is where you take 100% responsibility to see that society isn’t doing anything to you.
You basically signed an agreement with society, therefore you start justifying how you feel by blaming it.
Change Your Life – Step 9: Learn to Fall
Learn to fail and to make mistakes. To work on yourself means that everyday you make mistakes, but you have to be willing to take risks.
With more risks come more doubts, more fears and more anxiety. It’s easy to stay in your comfort zone. But the more risk you take, the more you are going to fail and the bigger will be the reward.
To really change your life, you have to see realize that failure doesn’t exist. Failure is only a stepping stone to help you become your greatest version.
Change Your Life – Step 10: Trust Your Abilities
How many of us truly trust ourselves?
Go to the places where you find your greatest power. Practice what you love every single day.
The best are only the best because they do it every day, they don’t rest on their laurels, they enjoy the practice, they enjoy their craft and they realize that there is no end.
Change Your Life – Step 11: Be Present
Absorb yourself in the present moment. Many times you are not really there. You are somewhere else. You are always feeling that the past was better or you are waiting for a better future.
Live in the now. That’s the secret to lasting life change.
Change Your Life – Step 12: Change You Focus
How many of us see someone and we have preconceived ideas of who they are? This happens because our focus is all about seeing the flaws in them.
When you attempt to analyze someone to the point where you just see them as negative, that is actually a reflection of how you see yourself instead of how you see them.
Try instead to see everyone in their highest nature, in their highest self. This allows you to rebuild and to change your focus and make your interactions with the world more energy generating.
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